Hair Help

I am in a love/hate relationship with my hair. It has been naturally curly since I hit puberty, but it has only been in the last few years that I have learned to work with the curls. This is where my love for my hair comes in. I honestly love having curly hair, and I used to say that I couldn’t get a bad haircut because the curls cover over a multitude of wrongs.

But I am constantly changing my mind about my hair. I am mostly a short-hair girl, but then I see pictures of myself when it was long (on some rare occasions in my past), and I want it long. Then it’s long and I get frustrated with it, and I cut it off – only to realize that I want it long again.

It is in the in-between stages right now – it hit my shoulders a week ago, and now it’s driving me absolutely batty. Now, throw in the post-pregnancy hormones that are making my hair thin and flat, and it mounts up to a daily frustration for me.

Seriously, I think about my hair all.the.time. Because my hair is curly, it’s my most noticable feature, and one that I am proud of. Through all the years of growing up and staring at parts of myself in the mirror identifying what I would change, my hair has remained my one, steadfastly good quality.

Until I had a baby. Now it’s full of grey and I can’t keep the curl past 3 o’clock for any amount of product in my cabinet. And suddenly, my one good quality is just out of reach. Not to mention the fact that I’m supposedly growing it out and it’s in the worst stage possible.

And I take back not getting a bad hair cut. I have had plenty of bad hair cuts – and right now I can’t afford to have one. So I am sucking it up, and I’ve booked an appointment with my all-time favorite stylist (who incidentally costs the most – hey, you get what you pay for, right?) and asking for help.

The thing that makes her so great – besides her awesome cuts and magical head massages – is her ideas. When I go in to get my hair cut, I want the stylist to help me, well, with style. I don’t want to bring in a photo for her to copy in a cut for me, I want her to use her expertise, look at me, and give me solid advice about what I should do.

And this is exactly what Sarah will do on May 1 at 11:15am (she’s popular and it’s hard to get an appointment) – she’ll pick through my hair in front of the mirror and I will bombard her with questions: Should I grow it out? Do you think my curls will come back? Why is my hair so thin? Am I really ruining my hair with the $5 bottles of color I buy from Target? How can you make me look and feel fabulous?

Because she can – she can make me feel fabulous, and that is why I keep going back to her. With a little care and creativity, she ushers me out of her chair and back into my real life feeling like a million bucks – and sometimes, post-pregnancy, that’s all I need to boost my spirits and keep people looking at my hair.

Author: Heather Hammond

Questions are worth asking. They bring us closer to ourselves and to God. Writer, wife, mother, Christian, creative.

7 thoughts on “Hair Help”

  1. I totally agree. There is nothing like a good haircut!! I do that too…to get me out of a rut sometimes, and it always works 🙂 I love your hair too…beautiful!!!

  2. YAY! i’m SO glad (wait, is that wrong?) that i’m not the only one that has started to go GRAY since having isaac!!? i was JUST talking about this! hence the new darker hair color i have, i had to cover GRAYS!

    i totally feel ya on the hair front. a good cut is everything! and worth every cent! a good stylist is hard to find and not only is a nice cut worth the time and money…

    sitting STILL, in a chair, for an hour, while somebody touches my head…well…at this stage in my life, that’s priceless.

    ENJOY!

  3. having had curly hair forever, you’ve probably never thought about getting a perm. But if you want your ringlets back, that might be an option? My straight hair has never been straight after my first perm (during my pubescent years). But I know what you mean about pregnancy & hormones and such. Some years my curls have been like tight ringlets, and others they have been barely wavy frizzles. I have no color in my hair at present, and am starting to really see the grey. Can’t wait to hear what your stylist says about your curls, especially. Since mine go thru phases too. And color.

  4. okay girl…so i totally get the hair thing! as a person who has struggled with curly hair FOREVAH i feel your pain!! and i too…have finally embraced my curls and i know my products. any time you need a consult…you call me 🙂

  5. I love your hair when it is just below your chin. And I totally understand the cut and grow out process cause I do it all the time. Esecially when I’m pregnant. And I love change. I get tired of looking the same all the time. :]

  6. I know you’re probably exaggerating for the sake of a good blog post, but I wanted to remind you that your hair is NOT your only good quality. For example:

    -Your eyes and eyelashes
    -Your smile
    -Your slender figure (which you have back already I might add)
    -Your sense of humor and creativity

    And I’ve always thought your hair looks pretty straight. You should embrace it. 🙂

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